Wim | body-oriented (trauma) therapist and coach

Therapist Delft

Welcome

Welcome to my practice for body-oriented therapy and coaching. Where necessary, I combine body-oriented therapy with EMDR and multiple interventions, such as systemic work, Voice Dialogue or NLP methods.

Do you recognize the situation that you have realized that you do something in a not very helpful way, but that it is not really within reach to change your behaviour?

When you intend to practice other behaviour, you often only succeed for a short time. And as soon as you realize that, you make another effort to do it differently. With the same result a little later. That's frustrating. And sometimes discouraging. While it is very logical that you do not rewrite old patterns only with your conscious brain.

These patterns are often stored in other parts of your brain and body than just the cognitive part.

I would like to explore with you what it takes for you to reverse those patterns. In a way that requires quite an effort, but that is hopefully integrated in such a way that it continues more automatically.

About myself as a therapist

I often go deeper, because I believe that if something is touched in the underlying patterns, you can arrive at new (automatic) behaviour. This often concerns identity (self-esteem) or mission. How you act and how you feel is strongly related to how you look at yourself and how you give meaning to life. Connecting your behaviour to your mission can provide a lot of space and energy.

In counselling I like to go for such structural improvements, but always in connection with your wishes as a client.

An important basis for the therapy is that it feels safe and a good intake contributes to this. It starts with a short introduction and continues with exploring and deepening the question. Often clients give me back that they quickly feel safe, that they sometimes confide in me things that they haven't told anyone else yet. In my counselling I also find it important to reflect without judgment what strikes me. Leaving things unnamed doesn't help much.

I am familiar with an analytical world of thinking, I easily make connections and have a quick understanding. In the end it’s important to connect thinking and feeling.

Motive

It gives me a lot of energy and satisfaction to interact constructively with a client. Rather focused on sustainable healing than on an ad hoc solution. This takes more time, but also yields more. I get a lot of energy from offering a safe environment, to experience moments of relief and discharge and to guide someone in taking structural steps.

The guidance does not feel heavy to me, my approach is to contribute to healing in a playful, relaxed and sometimes cheerful way.

Approach

In a therapy process I use both intuitive and result-oriented interventions. I often join in with what presents itself and meanwhile I give direction in the conversation what seems relevant to me. I combine that with a practical approach with tools (and homework) to work on different behaviour in concrete terms.

If there is evidence of developmental trauma or shock trauma, I will use body-oriented trauma therapy and EMDR. The combination of these makes it very powerful. In addition, I draw from a wide range of methodologies and exercises, whichever suits your situation best. Your process is always central.

In trauma it is about being injured, about the hitch between feeling and consciousness. As a trauma therapist, I want to help someone heal the wound, no matter how anxious it feels to even approach it, so that it can heal.

My talent is to connect with the undercurrent of one's pain and one's being. By acting as a mirror out of compassion, you are helped to recognize what is there and to allow it being there. This subsequently provides more connection between the feeling and consciousness, the connection between which was broken. Which already is a start of healing.

Goal

It's not strange what you're walking with. As an experienced counsellor I offer you recognition, clarification and humour. So that you (re)find the track with more self-confidence, peace, balance, energy, space and pleasure in your work and life.

In short, if you are looking for a therapist who…

o    want to help you rewrite underlying patterns

o    can connect your behaviour with your mission and with meaning

o    advocates a practical approach with concrete steps

o    helps you to give a place to overwhelming events

o    offers you space and recognition

o    is accessible and that you can easily confide in

o    can make things shine a little lighter with humour every now and then

o    has an analytical mindset and can connect with empathy

contact me for a no-obligation intake.

In an intake interview you can see if it clicks and what I can do for you. If you do not want to continue or if I see reason to refer you, the intake is free of charge. If you do want to continue, than it is the first session. If an intake is canceled or moved shorter than 48 hours before the appointment then costs will be charged. 

Please contact me if you want to know more or make an appointment,

Wim