Barbara | Counselor and EFT Relationship therapist

I offer therapy in

• ✓ Dutch

• ✓ English

Specialisations

Most common issues I support people with:

1. Searching meaning and Life Questions

Perhaps, like many people, you are experiencing feelings of loneliness or a sense of meaninglessness and emptiness. You may no longer know why you should get out of bed in the morning, feeling directionless for quite some time. Everything seems flat, indifferent, or boring, or conversely, too much and too hectic. The special aspects of life have disappeared, and little can inspire you anymore.

You feel stuck. Together, we will explore what gives your life meaning and stability. I'll help you become aware of your feelings and what is important to you, viewing significant life events as opportunities for personal growth.

2. Being Happy Again in Your Relationship

We now understand that it's entirely logical for partners to encounter relationship problems. In a relationship, you are, after all, most vulnerable. Your relationship (unconsciously) brings you back to your own vulnerability and the need to feel love. If something happens in your relationship with the person you love the most, it can lead to resistance or confusion.

Because, from this point on, your partner triggers tension in you when you actually want to feel closeness and connection, it's challenging to navigate through this together. You find yourselves continually triggered by each other, even when you don't want that.

Relationship therapy helps break through entrenched patterns, develop a deeper understanding of each other, and improve intimacy and sexuality. This leads to fewer conflicts, misunderstandings, and loneliness, creating freedom and more energy to enjoy life together.

Everyone is welcome, regardless of gender and/or sexual orientation.

3. Loss and Grief

After the death of a partner, child, parent, or close friend, finding balance in your life again can be very challenging. Dealing with a (life-threatening) illness of yourself or a loved one, or experiencing a divorce and the loss of a job, can also be perceived as significant losses.

Not only of health or family but particularly of yourself or parts of yourself that are important to you. Emotions, recurring images, or stuck thoughts need to be seen and heard to be released or given a new meaning, allowing you to move forward with your life.

I support those who have experienced loss and help you illuminate these emotions, images, and thoughts, creating space for a new future.

4. Sensitivity and Spiritual Experiences

Spiritual experiences such as seeing or hearing deceased individuals, near-death experiences, clear messages in dreams, visions, and telepathy can be confusing and frightening, but with the right assistance, they can also be very positive. They rarely exist in isolation and are not separate from your daily earthly life.

Extraordinary experiences often occur in existential moments of your life, such as feeling the presence of a loved one closely during their passing. Even experiences unrelated to death can help you during transformative periods of your life. I help you interpret and better understand these experiences.

I also guide (highly) sensitive individuals who lose a lot of energy by picking up a great deal from others (often unconsciously) and are sensitive to noise and stimuli. Together, we explore how sensitivity can be used as a strength, allowing you to better set boundaries to let your unique talents flourish.

5. Psychosocial Problems

Life can be challenging and complicated at times. You may feel entangled within yourself, or your relationship with your partner may no longer provide what you need. Feelings of sadness or burnout due to not recognizing and respecting your own boundaries may also be affecting you.

Counseling can help you feel better and more liberated, experience peace and space, and restore balance to your life.

Could you use some help?

I am here to guide you in the following areas:

Relationship problems, fears, low self-esteem, guilt, and shame, feelings of sadness, loneliness, aimlessness, stress, burnout, identity issues, coming out, Jewish identity, LGBTQ+ identity, gender, parenthood, blended families, occupational burnout, and/or dismissal-related problems.

Fees

I’m registered as a counselor at the Dutch professional associations CAT-vergoedbaar, NFG and RBCZ. Therefore, individual sessions are (partly) reimbursed by a lot of Dutch healthcare insurances. Relationship counseling isn’t reimbursed.

Please contact your insurance company, if you’d like to know more about the options.

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